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Tiny Interview:
Misha Bonaventura, consent culture advocate
Misha Bonaventura co-produces Bonobo Tribe, an adult sex-positive community based in the San Francisco Bay Area.
What’s your quick bio?
I teach Sexual Adulting 101 for women and work with SoulPlay Festival to develop their consent culture with a harm reduction and transformative justice lens. My private practice, Clearing Conversations, focuses on conflict resolution and communication coaching. I’m passionate about supporting the sex-positive community of the Bay Area and beyond in creating sustainable, long-term relationship building.
What are some of your own favorite past projects? Why do you feel great about them?
I founded Trustable Sluts, a place for sexually liberated, socially responsible women. We empower, celebrate, and honor sexually-liberated, self-aware, and socially-responsible women with a sisterhood community, support, and fun.
I supported the creation of Navigating Consent Classes, created by Dossie Easton, the co-author of The Ethical Slut. These classes teach consent, collaboration, cooperation, and how to make safe spaces and protect yourselves and each other.
What is a cultural phenomenon, experiment, or moment that has inspired you in the past?
The #MeToo movement has amplified the ability to spread consent culture to a more mainstream audience. It has allowed us to spread what we know about consent culture and explicit communication about sex and relationships to be seen and heard by more people.
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“Consent culture goes beyond sexual consent: it means understanding what each individual needs to self-care, that we don't overwork ourselves, that we allow people to make decisions that are best for them. ”
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What's a current cultural edge you're excited to see people pushing?
I'm excited to be leading the way of sexual cultural change. I see the Bay Area pushing the boundaries and dominant paradigm of sexual relationship and that feels exciting to me.
What’s your biggest, most out-there dream of a better world?
A world where people can have connection, intimacy, touch, and love through a community of people that are their friends, lovers, and even their exes.
What's a relatively small, highly achievable dream of a better world that you sometimes think about but haven't done yet?
I would like to see a third party mediation team to support conflict resolution in the sex-positive spaces in the Bay Area. This would free the leaders of these communities from having to investigate their own communities for wrongdoing, while still offering accountability. Third-party mediation would also give community members a place to make complaints about community leaders when they feel it’s necessary.
If you could put out a PSA to the entire world asking for help with one thing, what would you ask for?
We currently live in a culture of domination, and shifting to consent culture will take all of us. This goes beyond sexual consent: consent culture means understanding what each individual needs to self-care, that we don't overwork ourselves, that we allow people to make decisions that are best for them.
What's your favorite thing about The New Modality?
I love that you are bringing cutting-edge ideas to a broader audience.
What are your favorite links that will help our audience learn about you, your life, your work, and your values?
The Consent Policy for Bonobo Tribe, the sex-positive community I co-produce: bit.ly/bonobotribeconsentpolicy
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Transparency Notes
This profile was edited by Katie MacBride. Katie is a writer and co-founder of Anxy magazine. More about Katie at her NewMo profile
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